Any relationship that begins with chaos, usually ends in chaos.
Men are to love their wife, and women are to be submissive. Everyone has their own interpretation so I find I rather useless to explain how I feel about that open statement. I can say that when Adam and Eve roamed the Earth after they were kicked out of the Garden of Eden that had many trials and tribulations and God never mentioned divorce to them nor did they mention it themselves because they had no clue what it was. Divorce was man-made and came about during the time of Moses. It was only allowed under the circumstances of infidelity and nothing else. The bible never stated that I will allow anyone to get a divorce because we can’t get along. Infidelity only… And Moses never said I urge divorce as long as you have the papers to do so. Moses said, I will let divorce happen only when your spouse cheats on you in the literal sense. Which means that divorce was allowed by some people but not in the eyes of God. It has been said in those times women were not allowed to speak the word divorce but when men got tired of their current wife and wanted something new he would either speak the word divorce and that was it or he would add extra wives to his bunch. I found that very interesting and it kind of explained why the marriage society is the way it is today. Something we all should think about because history always repeats itself. We all should consider marriage very seriously because of things like this because marriage vows clearly state that your stuck with your spouse like glue forever. It isn’t for everybody and in this day in time you have to consider who your marrying because it might just be somebody that hates being stuck with another person
Funny how a person can wake up one day and not recognize the person that they lay next to every night. How is it a person can make horrible decisions without thinking about the person they said they love the most. Sad how disgusted you feel when you find out how your spouse has been intimate with another person. Livid is a understatement when it comes to my feelings when I think about all of the sacrifices I’ve made to be with you. Hate is what I feel when I think of all the things you have done to hurt me, the mother of your children. Fear is what I feel when I think of our little boys growing up to be just like their father. Resentment is what I feel now for my daughter when she realizes that she won’t be getting attention for her father and seeks it somewhere else.
What do you do when you’re at a crossroad with your significant other? Are you suppose to immediately fix it or let it go. When is it ever the right time to discuss the not so great things that happen between two people who are in a committed relationship. Are the fences really ever mended when your really upset or hurt. Do we really forgive if we never forget. I unfortunately brought in the New Year with a series of horrible arguments, an unhealed past, and broken promises. Does that mean that it is supposed to be fixed when I know that I am going to go through the same thing in a month or 2. Is it right to always be ready for the worst thing possible in a relationship? Funny how I just woke up one day with a string of responsibilities, putting everyone’s feelings before my own. There is a difference between being content and happy and I have never been the type to settle. I have settled for 5 years now and I wonder when will I ever get my happy back. My wedding anniversary was December 26th and I can honestly say that I didn’t celebrate it for the 3 years that I have been married and now I’m starting to wonder will I ever. Is it supposed to be just another day? I use to always fantasize about my marriage and I wouldn’t have ever thought that it would have been filled with so much deceit. Now that I think about it my marriage started off with lies and deceit. I always thought that if I did everything that I could to be a good wife that my marriage would be ok. Now, I’m not so sure. I feel like I’m on my own, I’m exhausted and I feel like I deserve the happiness that is equal to what I give out. So this year I am going to try to get to a place where I receive nothing but happiness because I deserve it. I have worked very hard to make sure my family (immediate as well as extended) smiles constantly. Now, its my turn.
Space. We all fail to realize that this is a necessity. Room to breathe, and giving others the opportunity to do the same. Space from work, our spouses, our friends, even our children, and so forth. We are becoming too occupied and forgetting that our physical and mental state of mind needs some R&R from time-to-time. We are getting use to doing so much that we don’t even notice when our mind and bodies are in distress. I can say this because I am this person. Feeling guilty because I was a person who just needed a timeout. Always wondering what I need to do the next day, helping others carry out their goals while putting mine on hold, etc. Then, I woke up one day and my identity was gone. I couldn’t recognize myself anymore because I was surrounded by a to-do list. After that, it happened. I went into overload and I became stressed. I crashed when everyone arround me was content and I wasn’t able to take care of myself. I had trouble thinking, eating, and functioning for the people who needed me the most. I became physically ill, then, everybody suffered especially me. I’ve heard of things happening like this before and I never believed it could happened to me. I guess I had to experience it. So, now I can let everyone know who wants to listen. Your body can completely shut down when you don’t take a minute to let yourself relax. Women especially have this problem. We tend to have a gnat of staying in control of everyone’s lives except our own. So, I just wanted to express that we all need space. It is not only desired, its required.
Thanksgiving Background (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
Just wanted to wish all a Happy Thanksgiving especially the ones that are not with loved ones as I am. Its the worst day of the year to feel homesick but I’m very thankful.
I am a rookie and could be way off base or not know what I’m talking about altogether. My daughter started preschool this year and she just happens to be in a special education classroom because she has PDD-NOS (Autism) and a hearing impairment and I was completely clueless about what was the difference between that particular setting as opposed to a typical classroom. My question is… What happened to copies of birth certificates, shot records and signatures attached to your current address? I get being advocates for your children but when did things get so meticulous with the slightest room for error. I feel like I should have went back to school before she started school because I had to do research, go through a million resources, and learn as many federal laws as I could. And I’m still learning. I think that it is absolutely awesome that the school system is getting the parents to get more involved in our children’s education, but one ugly turn can become a battlefield. Teachers vs. Parents and vice versa. Of course things are a little more complex now since I started school (which were many moons ago). Yes things are completely different when it comes to PTA meetings and parent/teacher conferences but should they turn into debates with our children being caught in the crossfire. I have never had bad experiences with my daughter’s school, in fact, I feel as though she has excellent teachers and she goes to a great school but I have heard, and read about horrible situations between parents and school districts that do not end very well half of the time. But after all the domestics of reading and filling out the necessary paperwork, familiarizing yourself with the new schedules, and so on. I found out that the advocating is worth it in the end. Besides, I have twin boys at home so I should be a pro by the time they start school