I hear this all the time. Stop dwelling on the past and don’t worry about the future. Those things will take care of itself. Or your main focus should be on the NOW because its less stressful. Is it. Why is it we should focus on the now when we are living in the moment. Why put the past behind us when it shapes the people we become. And why not worry about our future when our lives depend on what will happen tomorrow (which is the future). There isn’t a human being that hasn’t suffered mentally, physically or emotionally in their lifetime and even though we know that worrying about things that sometimes we have no control over affects our well-being we worry anyway. Does worrying make us bad people? Absolutely not. I think it shapes our character and it shows others as well as ourselves that we care about something and that we have a beating heart. The truth is I actually worry more when I try not to focus on the past and the future so either way I’m screwed. The point I’m trying to make is your thoughts are exactly that. YOURS. And we shouldn’t give them up. Stress comes from dwelling on the negative when in fact we have a lot of positive things in our past and the future. So keep your thoughts, all of them. Good or bad. They’re your thoughts and you should use them as you please.
As of January 30, 2014 (which was this past Thursday) I became a proud mother of a 5-year-old little girl. Yes, I do have other children but I just wanted to share my thoughts about how I really feel. Now I’m not the eldest of my parents 7 kids but I can remember how my siblings and I would envy our brother (which was my mother’s first-born) because he had more immunity than we had (so I thought). I can’t speak for the rest of my siblings but I can say that now I slightly understand why my parents made some of the choses they made. I’m not completely sure why nor have I asked them but the first-born, in my opinion are entitled to certain things and of course I wasn’t a parent back then so I didn’t understand. First borns are the children that we as parents make the most mistakes with. Sounds bad I know but its true. It doesn’t matter if we decide to have more children afterwards, they are usually the children that we get the most practice out of. I.E. when I went into labor I didn’t know what to expect. Regardless of how many stories I had heard or seen on television nothing prepared me for that pain. So by the time I became pregnant with the twins I knew what to expect and I have my daughter to thank for that. Honestly, my labor was much better with the twins than with my daughter. Anyway, her first cold, first bath, first cut, first day of school, etc. are all examples of things I didn’t know anything about until her. And I’m sure all parents feel that way about their eldest child. So I owe my eldest a lot because she did for me what nobody else could, and that’s teaching me how to be a mother for the children I had after her. When she’s old enough to understand I’m going to let her know how much I appreciate the fact that she came first because she deserves it. Her making it to her 5th birthday was a huge milestone for me. One short step down a long road and she’s worth it.
Well written and something everyone needs to know about the hardest job in the world.
Originally posted on 4 Mothers:
You know how some of it goes, I’m sure. Wake up, feed the kids, pack lunches and snacks, wrangle them into winter gear (realize your oldest kid’s boots are missing from outing with dad), get them to school. Talk to fellow mom, discover that last week I offered a playdate for our youngest boys that is hard to follow through on. Go to the office to do parent council duties because, in a moment of weakness, I did what I explicitly said I wouldn’t do, and volunteered to be co-chair of the council (there was no one else, everyone seemed to be looking my way, I believe in community involvement, I like the people, blah blah). Help count money from our Winter Fair from the weekend (amazing but huge), fill out forms, make bank deposit.
Find my son in the office because he doesn’t feel well. Take son home to meet frustrated husband who is late for work because I am late from school. Work at home on computer to prepare for council meeting and lose opportunity to be with my son. Lie to him that I’ll be five minutes, which minutes never expire, shush him when he notes this, and send him away. Feel vaguely sick about living wrong.
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Men are to love their wife, and women are to be submissive. Everyone has their own interpretation so I find I rather useless to explain how I feel about that open statement. I can say that when Adam and Eve roamed the Earth after they were kicked out of the Garden of Eden that had many trials and tribulations and God never mentioned divorce to them nor did they mention it themselves because they had no clue what it was. Divorce was man-made and came about during the time of Moses. It was only allowed under the circumstances of infidelity and nothing else. The bible never stated that I will allow anyone to get a divorce because we can’t get along. Infidelity only… And Moses never said I urge divorce as long as you have the papers to do so. Moses said, I will let divorce happen only when your spouse cheats on you in the literal sense. Which means that divorce was allowed by some people but not in the eyes of God. It has been said in those times women were not allowed to speak the word divorce but when men got tired of their current wife and wanted something new he would either speak the word divorce and that was it or he would add extra wives to his bunch. I found that very interesting and it kind of explained why the marriage society is the way it is today. Something we all should think about because history always repeats itself. We all should consider marriage very seriously because of things like this because marriage vows clearly state that your stuck with your spouse like glue forever. It isn’t for everybody and in this day in time you have to consider who your marrying because it might just be somebody that hates being stuck with another person