Why is it that women seem to make more sacrifices than men. No, I am not biased but this is my truth. All winter I have been dealing with colds, flus, stomach bugs and so on and that’s just the illnesses that my children have been having. And most of the time when they were sick I was as well. Its very complicated to deal with sick toddlers who doesn’t underatand the severity of being sick while being sick yourself. The boys still thought they could play and vomit all over the house while I’m cleaning up the mess and vomiting right behind them. Of course my husband brings home the bacon so he had to work but I was praying that he stayed home for one day so I could at least lie down. But his typical response was, “I can’t, I have a lot of work to do”. I have been a military wife now for about 5 years but my husbands has missed births, birthday’s, first steps, doctor appointments, and first day of school amongst other things. Before I got married I had a career as well and when he was deployed and my daughter got ill or had a major appointment I had to put my career on hold. Yes I am complaining a little but why can’t soldiers or men in general have sick days for their wives and kids like mothers. I know my job as a mother but we shouldn’t be making all the sacrifices.
As of January 30, 2014 (which was this past Thursday) I became a proud mother of a 5-year-old little girl. Yes, I do have other children but I just wanted to share my thoughts about how I really feel. Now I’m not the eldest of my parents 7 kids but I can remember how my siblings and I would envy our brother (which was my mother’s first-born) because he had more immunity than we had (so I thought). I can’t speak for the rest of my siblings but I can say that now I slightly understand why my parents made some of the choses they made. I’m not completely sure why nor have I asked them but the first-born, in my opinion are entitled to certain things and of course I wasn’t a parent back then so I didn’t understand. First borns are the children that we as parents make the most mistakes with. Sounds bad I know but its true. It doesn’t matter if we decide to have more children afterwards, they are usually the children that we get the most practice out of. I.E. when I went into labor I didn’t know what to expect. Regardless of how many stories I had heard or seen on television nothing prepared me for that pain. So by the time I became pregnant with the twins I knew what to expect and I have my daughter to thank for that. Honestly, my labor was much better with the twins than with my daughter. Anyway, her first cold, first bath, first cut, first day of school, etc. are all examples of things I didn’t know anything about until her. And I’m sure all parents feel that way about their eldest child. So I owe my eldest a lot because she did for me what nobody else could, and that’s teaching me how to be a mother for the children I had after her. When she’s old enough to understand I’m going to let her know how much I appreciate the fact that she came first because she deserves it. Her making it to her 5th birthday was a huge milestone for me. One short step down a long road and she’s worth it.
We drive every generation to become who they are. Motherhood is the ultimate career.